I have posted first as RIP Randy and Relieved Widow. I was also widowed with two young daughters at the time. please read my last post as Relieved Widow. I know what you are talking about. I lost hope for a while but as I said before, there may be things you have overlooked. Go back and check everything since your husband died. I even found a life insurance policy he had but never mentioned. When he got sick I suppose he forgot to keep up payments. I am now checking into this. God bless you.
Some hospitals have grants for the disabled to purchase a vehicle and modify it for hand controls or wheelchair access if needed. call some charity hospitals in your state and if they dont have the grant mabey they know who might. Hope that helps.